"I recognise from the other side that I accept what has happened to me, but having hope I will work to get better. It allows me to push and push in rehab, to do the next thing that's needed.
Days after being admitted to hospital, speaking to surgeons he said he realised "this is not going to be over in weeks, this will be years" and secondly when he hoped to go home for his birthday last year, but was told another major spinal operation was needed.
"Once I did that I was fine. It was important to me to manage my expectations and think yes, this has had a huge impact, it's fine to be upset and embrace it, but it will get better and pass - and it did."
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